First Controversial Topic

Alright ladies and gents. It's time for my first controversial post. 

I had a conversation today with someone and it got me to thinking. Why do women get so upset when men go to strip clubs? And if you know said man is going to strip club, tell him it's ok with you if he goes, then get pissed when he's honest with you that he got a lap dance, what gives you any right to be upset with him? 

First off, let me begin with, I am married. I have been married to my husband for 9 years. At the beginning, I would get upset if he would go. Pretty much out of my own selfishness and because all my girlfriends made me feel like I should be mad at him. Then, as the years passed he stopped going to the strip club because it's just too far to drive to. He might have gone once a year if that. But eventually as time went on I didn't care about it so much anymore. So what if he has beautiful titties in his face, he comes home to me and then loves on me and that is what matters. 

This topic came up this morning when I was speaking to a male friend of mine. My husband and his buddies went out to a bachelor party last night and I went to the bachelorette party. I knew ahead of time my husband was going to a strip club. I told him to have a good time, simple as that. When we met up later that night I asked him how it went and he seemed unamused but told me he got one dance. Cool, whatever, I felt no jealousy at all. 

Now our friends night went a bit differently. So he gets home and his girlfriend asks him if he had a dance. He answers honestly that yes, he had a dance. What does the girl proceed to do? She smacks him in the face and continues to fight with him because she is mad he actually went to the strip club. She knew ahead of time he was going. What did she expect him to do? Sit there while his buddies had a good time? 

Now, I might be out of line but, I see things differently then some women. I understand that some women view strip clubs as disgusting places that are full of whores. I have no idea, because I have never been to one. But, I will not judge another women because of her place of employment. If she is happy, I am happy. 

I really like to pick and choose my battles with my husband. I get that these two are only dating but in my opinion, she had no right to be pissed off at him because he went to the strip club. She knew ahead of time, like me, that he was going. It is her own fault that he went. If she didn't want him to go, or if she felt uncomfortable with the idea, then she should have sat down with him and talked to him about it like a grown up. Men cannot read our minds ladies. Yes, I know we expect them to but come on now. 

If you are one of the ladies out there that gets upset then here is my advice to you. Instead of bitching to your friends about it, actually talk to your man. And I'm not saying be a total bitch. I'm saying sit down, like the classy, grown woman you are and tell him how you feel. If he gets upset, then obviously he doesn't care that much about you. If he did then your opinion would matter. My husband would get defensive at first too. But then we learned to compromise and this topic is no longer an issue in our home. Neither are sex toys and porn but I will save that for another day. 

I'm not usually a fan of talking about controversial topics. Sometimes though they are good to talk about. I'm sure as I continue my blog I'm going to irritate people. And I know there are going to be women out there that thoroughly disagree with me. That is ok if you don't agree with me. That is part of the beauty in this world is we get the chance to have our own independent thoughts and beliefs. 

If you would like, go ahead and voice your opinion in the comments. All I ask is you keep it classy and respectful of other women and men. 

Thanks for reading and keep it quirky <3 

Staci