Shake It Off vs Habits(Stay High)

Alright ladies, I love a great catchy tune just like the next girl but I am so sick and tired of hearing all the crap on the radio. So much so, that I'd rather not listen to anything expect my favorite local station Q101. Recently I've seen a lot of other bloggers falling in love with Taylor Swift's new jam "Shake It Off". It's so catchy and makes you happy that I also, have fallen in love with it. Then our local pop station is constantly playing Tove Lo's song "Habits(Stay High). This song is incredibly annoying and has been digging into my brain so much that I decided I needed to get this out into the open. I'm sure other woman have posted about it but I am doing so as well.


"Habits(Stay High)"

Without going into much detail, I'm just going to start off by saying this song has got to be one of the worst songs I have ever heard. At first I liked it. Tove Lo has an amazing voice and she is a beautiful woman. However, I really paid attention to the lyrics and they are just disgusting. For example, she talks about how she throws up in the bathtub after binging on twinkies, or how she goes to sex clubs. But all in all, the song pretty much tells young women that when they are going through a break up (from a guy or a girl) that they should go get high all the time to deal with the pain. I've been through some tough break ups but let me tell you the hardest break up of all was when my husband and I split up for a brief time just last year. Never once did I consider getting high to deal with how I felt. I didn't drink, smoke, eat or anything. I dealt with it the best I could, by crying my damn eyes out like a normal person. Now, I don't have daughters but I do have sisters, and this is not what a young teenage girl should be listening to.

"Pick up daddies at the playground
How I spend my daytime
Loosen up the frown,
Make them feel alive
I'll make it fast and greasy
I'm numb and way too easy"

Seriously chick??? This is what you thought you should write a song about. Telling girls that they should go pick up other men, have sex with them, and be easy??? No! HELL NO! Young women need to be strong, and know that even when they are in pain from a break up or whatever that they can get through it. There are many other outlets to deal with pain then getting high and having sex. They can work out, write, draw, talk to their girlfriends, run, etc. The music video is also disgusting. I get it, SEX IS EVERYWHERE, and parents need to monitor what their kids watch but even as a grown woman it's just gross. All in all, it's just not the right message to be sending to teenage girls and other women 

"Shake It Off" 

Now, I will compare "Shake It Off" to "Habits". At first, when I heard this song I thought it was annoying. Especially when radio stations tend to play it over and over. But, then it grew on me and I realized that the message within the song is great. Taylor sings about how the media or other people portray her and how she simply shakes it off. And she is right, haters are gonna hate, players are gonna play, heart breakers are gonna break, potaters are gonna potate and you know what you should do, SHAKE IT OFF!!!! Finally, a decent song that speaks to girls that says, "You know what, I know things suck right now and that guy dumped you, or those girls are talking crap about you, but you know what you do, shake it off and don't let it get to you. Because you are better than that"! Why is it so complicated for other sing writers to write songs like this? 

"But I keep cruising
Can't stop, won't stop grooving
It's like I got this music
In my mind
Saying, "It's gonna be alright."

That's right ladies, everything is going to be alright. I really believe that music soothes the soul. When I was going through a break up I always turned to music like Destiny Child's "Survivor". We need more songs out there that speak positivism and strength to women. More songs that tell women that it's okay to be in pain and still be strong at the same time. There is no reason in the world to let a guy or a girl get you down and effect you so much. You are loved and cared for. Things get better and you don't have to get high or be easy. All you have to do is shake it off and smile girl. You got this. 

Let me know your opinions in the comments below. This is just my honest opinion about two songs and not my opinion about the character of the artists themselves. 

Credits for song lyrics go to A-Z Lyrics.com

To the Girl That Wants My Husband

I have been wanting to write this post for awhile now. I just didn't know how to say the things I wanted to say without sounding like a downright bitch. So I am going to try my best to stay calm and get this all out of my head. But before I start here is a little background. I, Staci, have a hot husband. I know some people won't agree but these leeches at the bar sure agree. My husband and I have been together long enough now that I am very touchy about my man. This isn't about the girls who innocently flirt with him, this is about the girls that see me there and continue to flirt with him. Or the girls who know damn well he is married and continue to try. I'm no where near insecure about myself or our relationship. It's more or less annoying that some of these girls think I'm imaginary or that he is making me up. So, without further ado, here goes nothing. 

To the Girl That Wants My Husband, 

                           Hello there. I'm sure you assumed that I wasn't real but, guess what darling...I am. I heard about how you were practically down his throat last night while he was trying to get you off of him. Despite him telling you numerous times he is married, you continued. I know that my husband is sexy as hell. He's funny and easy to talk to. And damn does he look good in those jeans he wears. Trust me I know, I see him in those every single day. When you started to flirt with him, I could have forgiven you. You had been drinking, it's innocent and you just can't help it. He draws you in with his charisma. But after the fourth or fifth time of him asking you to leave him alone and letting you know he is married is where I cross the line. "Well where is your wife at then if you're married?" Umm I'm at home with our children where I am supposed to be. My husband isn't out to meet other women, he is out to work, to provide for his family. What makes you think it's ok to continue after a man who is married? Do you have no respect at all for your fellow woman? I'm not some naggy, bitch wife who he leaves at home because he doesn't want me. And no matter how much you had to drink, that gives you no right to continue. Then I meet you. Yah we've met and you have the audacity to tell someone you thought I was imaginary. No honey, I'm no where near imaginary. THEN! You continue to flirt with him even when I am in the room! You aren't the first girl to flirt with him in front of me but you were probably one of the few that knew who I was. I know you don't need or probably want my respect but I'm being classy enough to ask you, how would you feel if this was switched around? Maybe the next time you try to prey on a married man in front of his wife you should think twice. And if this has happened to you before, even more reason to not go after a man who is married. There are plenty of single guys out there looking for a nice girl. Except mine, he's found one already. SO HANDS OFF!

Sincerely,
       His Wife.